This is one of those rare BPost OT threads where the advice is high quality and there are no threadjacks (famous last words?)
I grew up in Los Angeles but have lived in South Florida for almost two decades. The advice OP is getting is pretty spot on with my experience.
For your specific requirements, SoCal has the advantage except for one - it’s prohibitively expensive compared to anywhere in SoFL except for select areas like Miami Beach. Regarding women - you’ll find an abundance of quality in both places but SoCal women are more stuck up
