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Which came first...the chicken or the egg? Which is more important...Girth or Length? Did Epstein really kill himself?
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02-08-2021, 10:56 AM | #7881 | |
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Neither - it's "girngth". Which is an amalgamation of the two. Yes, indirectly through his actions of keeping records. But also no, he didn't directly / physically kill himself. |
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02-08-2021, 11:04 AM | #7882 |
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[QUOTE=King Rudi;27209670]Ladies, I may need some advice soon. Hell landed at casa del rey yesterday. I spent my weekend working on the girlfriends house. In return she was going to help me clean mine. (Back story: I'm anal and keep a clean home. It stresses me for it to be messy. With the lifestyle I live I have very little time to get everything done, I rarely have time to sleep.) Long story short, her stuff got done, mine did not. I mentioned that it hurt my feelings that [COLOR="Blue"]she could stand there and watch me clean but not jump in and help. [/COLOR] This was a green light for her to go ballistic, interrupt me and never even really let me finish what I was trying to say. She ended up leaving, came back, left again, came back again and left me with my garage door opener. It seems that her personal responsibilities are more important than mine or spending time with me. I get that people should handle their business first, and I expect that; but it seems that her "stuff" never gets done and now it's taking precedence over spending time with me. We finally got a chance to talk and have decided to try to work things out. Problem is now I'm of the mindset of do I want to continue to do this? Almost 5 year invested, but this is the 4th time she has broken up with me over trivial shit in 5 months. I'd much rather be with someone who can verbally discuss problems and work past them willingly versus going the break up route right off the bat.
The sentence I bolded, was this when you were cleaning your home after you had helped with hers? I want to make sure I have it straight before I respond. |
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02-08-2021, 11:06 AM | #7883 | |
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02-08-2021, 11:38 AM | #7884 | |
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I say bail based on the bold. Obviously easier said then done based on the amount of time spent together. I don't play the whole interrupt me, get pissed, and leave game - not like you're children or anything. I think the last time you guys broke up she got a new job or was dealing was some stressful event? Seems like she is always a little tense though. Breaking up with you that many times seems to me that she is taking you for granted. This again doesn't bode well for me in regards to how people should be treated. As always, goodluck man |
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Although I think he was promising them nein...ahem, nine. Nine-11. It's why he picked the car he did. |
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02-08-2021, 12:37 PM | #7887 |
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King Rudi I'm not going to trash her here and say what I really feel. Her recent behavior on top of some of the old stuff I remember says it's time for you to go. You bend over backwards for her. Rule 1 in my book is you treat other people the way you want to be treated. She obviously doesn't get that. It's not going to get better, as what you allow continues. By staying, you're allowing it. And you don't need the drama.
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After I was finished, she got her clothes ready for the day, then went to the couch and got on facebook after making the comment, "I'll just go in here to stay out of your way." I can appreciate that. Just to clarify though, we aren't married, as for both sides of the story; I like to think I'm pretty good about giving both sides. Now I understand that viewpoints can vary; I don't discount that, but if I'm wrong, I'll admit it to whoever. I try not paint the people I care about in a negative light. I do respect your comment though. |
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Secondly, this is exactly where I am at. I have thought about the "What you allow is what will continue" business all day. I don't expect many on here to understand the situation as much as you would. You tend to know a little more than what I'm putting on here. I do bend over backwards for her and I feel like it isn't reciprocated. Case in point, I have never had a facebook profile picture with another person in it, unless it were my kids. I changed my profile picture to a picture of her and I. The only thing she had to say was to reply with a heart and smiley emoji.....that's it. Her profile picture, still her and her kids. Absolutely nothing about me on her profile at all. After I changed my profile picture, I had a mutual friend of ours msg me and say they had no clue we were even a couple.......5 years...... Literally nothing about me whatsoever on her social media. |
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I'm not trying to play devil's advocate here but just throwing around some things. Correct me if I'm wrong on anything. It doesn't seem as if she has the same want or ability to keep the same level of organization or cleanliness as you. Her not helping may be more that she's intimidated by your level of cleaning and feels she will do it wrong or that you wouldn't be happy with it. Also, where you say that you would jump in and help. That's what you would do. The one thing you have to remember is that you can't put your expectations onto someone else without them knowing. They will continually disappoint you. Not saying you do this, but I've had to realize that my OCD & need for things is not the same as the next person. I'm like you in the aspect I jump in to help and figure it out. I ask questions along the way if I'm unsure but at least I'm helping. Not everyone is the same and it can intimidate others. As far as communication, instead of coming to you to talk about whatever is causing her insecurities she lashes out. This will not change unless she truly recognizes and actively works on it. She has to figure out what triggers her and how to learn to break that reaction. You have to think about is the relationship/time investment worth it to keep going. Are you willing to continue along with these random outbursts? If you truly love her and are willing to work with her if she works for herself then it will be tough but possibly worth it to you? If not, you've got a lot of thinking to do. Walking away from 4-5 years is tough & the recent events I would assume weigh on you. Obviously, it's more complicated than a 2 paragraph response can fix😉 If you need to chat more, hit me up. |
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@King Rudi I just read your last post about her social media and that makes me go hmmmm. Does she post a lot?
That reminds me of my sister in laws mother in law. Moved down to south fl to marry some multi-millionaire. Keeps a solo picture of herself and never changed her last name to his. Rarely posts pictures of the guy. It makes me feel bad. He's older (70ish) with 2 young children. Poor sap thinks she married him and moved one of her sons (my sis in law & their family) down there because she loved him. Not a one of them would have moved if the guy was an average joe but they've come to "love" him |
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She just started to try to change. Seven weeks ago. To communicate, talk about the little stuff, understand what it means to you, etc. She ain't there bud. Not in seven weeks. Going to take a lot longer than that for a leopard to change its spots. She's going to revert to old behaviour because it is easy to slip into. I know that - I do that. The question I would have is - this incident aside, do you still see evidence of her trying to change? I'm not talking a 180, but efforts in the right direction? It seems you did...at least up to a week ago. So this is a week off. Know what my feeble mind thinks it has learned in the 11 odd years I've been married to my wife? We've had our little blowups and yelling matches and in that time and a for a few days later until we apologize, I think that we aren't going to make it, this is stupid, this trajectory is wrong and not sustainable. But you know what - after we apologize and hash it out, I can never see how I'd ever want to leave, she's my person. And I very much love her and the love isn't diminished, if anything it might be increased. I'm not saying fighting is a good way to create love - it isn't. But we are in love. And I think you are too. And that's why you are now riding the joyous tempest of passionately loving someone and then one week later thinking its all over, and how can this go on. But hey, we'll see. |
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